LDR ADVICE FROM SOMEONE WHO DOESN'T LIKE LDR (PART TWO)

Welcome to part two of our LDR series, where I dish out some shady advice regarding long distance relationships. If you've seen the previous post, I talked about my general dislike for LDR and how much sacrifice it takes to make it work. You can read it here.

Part two is, hopefully, here to give you more thoughts about this kind of relationship and what kind of badassery making it work would take. Did that make sense? Anyway, here we go! :)

LDR is scary AF

I'm scared of the things that can't go through Skype or Facetime. Little things, like what did you have for breakfast, or what show did you watch before going to sleep? What brand of toothpaste do you use? Are you this OC when washing the dishes?

Stupid, silly things like that. Because it's these things that usually make up the big things. Small nuances can lead to huge changes. I don't want to wake up one day and find out that the person I loved the most is now a stranger. Isn't that terrifying? There's other scary things that people worry about LDR (like cheating) but I think this is the scariest scenario of them all.

So before you engage in LDR, I think your relationship should already have a strong foundation.

Nope, not merely based on feelings, because feelings can change. There's a certain confidence that comes when you're both mature enough to trust each other. Again, you need to be each other's best friend in this. You have to keep choosing each other.

LDR is expensive

Do you know how much airfare costs? We're ever so thankful for piso fares, but it's not always the case, is it? LDRs are usually made of long flights and plane tickets and bus fares. LDR costs a lot. And that's just the logistics part of it. LDR is emotionally taxing, too. Think I haven't seen airport goodbyes? Lordie, they're the hardest ones to make.

In conclusion

With that said, LDR is not for the faint of heart. I do know a lot of people who are making it work and to them I give a big kudos. It's not an easy undertaking. It's a big investment. And with big investments come two things: big wins if you play it right or crushing loss if you don't work hard enough.

So Krish, should I go for it?

If you think you are mentally, emotionally and physically able to see it through, then go for it. If you can't imagine being with someone else, do it. If you think that the person and relationship is worth it, go right ahead. At the end of the day, it all depends on how much you're willing to put on the line.

And here, I quote one of my favorite writers David Levithan:

Love needs to have a future.

If you both know that a future is what you have, and if you know you're willing to work hard to have that future, with that someone, then by all means, go for it.

On the other hand, if you've been scared shitless with all these things I've mentioned about LDR or are not willing to start for fear of not being free or of breaking your heart or of losing, then...well, we'll see what the future has in store for you instead.

Maybe one day you'll find the courage to go for it, or find another kind of courage to walk away and pursue a different kind of love story.

Either way, I wish you all the best. These are my thoughts on LDR.

Good luck, and I hope this helps! :D <3

All the love,

K x