So one day one of my friends ask:

She's going to Seattle/Europe/Dubai/Singapore for good next month. What do I do?

My default reaction is, oh no, another long distance relationship is in your near future. Honestly, I don't know they ask love advice from me, but I'm gonna do my best to give you some of my insights, dear friend (and anyone who's contemplating going into an LDR).

Here are the salient points of this post:

1. LDR should be resolved as soon as possible.

2. You gotta trust the person a lot.

3. Please don't ask LDR advice from me because I'm not a big fan of it LOL.

Given our culture of working abroad, I guess it's not really that uncommon for people to go into long distance relationships. I've never been into LDR myself, but I am basically surrounded by people who are into it. Maybe you are, too.

These are my ideas as a third party observer. Surprisingly, I kind of have a lot to say on the matter so I'll split this into two parts. Are you ready?

This shady love advice is brought to you by #TianaAndHerFeelings:

LDR is not for everyone

Okay, first things first. Not here to preach about LDR and how amazing it is, because let's be honest: LDR is difficult hard heartbreaking challenging.

To be honest, my faith in Long Distance Relationships is slim. I personally think I would not survive it. See,  I'm the kind of person who needs to be with my significant other constantly. I'm clingy. There, I said it. Some strong independent women, at one point, need somebody by their side.

I, for example, need another person to go through my daily wins and troubles. I'm the kind of person who doesn't need many friends, truthfully. Just a few choice ones is fine, and my significant other is more or less the choicest of them all. He's the part time lover and full time friend.  The whole world can go to shitsville and I'd be fine, as long as I have this one person I can rely on.

If you are like me, how would you survive if this one person is like a hundred--- no, a thousand miles away?  

LDR is a whole lot of sacrifice in both of your time, money, and your #feelings. 

If you're considering pursuing a long distance relationship, I think you should ask yourself: 

Can you make it? Or better yet, are you both willing to make it work?

LDR should have an expiry date

No, honey, you can't just keep on Skype kissing forever. And as sweet as your screenshots look, nothing quite beats the feel of your actual hands touching. In real life. 

Both you and your SO deserve to be kissed and hugged and taken care of. Hell, you deserve to argue in real life.

With that said, I don't think people in an LDR should go on for more than a year without at least seeing each other once (or twice! or thrice!). Meet in the middle or something. LDR should be a short-term agreement, not a permanent set-up. 

Distance makes the heart grow fonder, I'm sure, but it should definitely be conquered. Find a way to be with each other permanently or constantly, at least, if permanent is not possible. And the soonest, the better.

Real talk: Someone will have to give at this point. Someone's got to move somewhere, give up a job or a hometown. And again one of you has to be willing to compromise. Think you can do it? Search your heart for that.

So that's just a couple of things I think you should consider when you're thinking of pursuing a long-distance relationship. In a perfect world, we wouldn't have to be away with loved ones. But since nothing is ever perfect, we have to make do with what we have.

Well, that's it for this post.

Stay tuned for part two, it's got more #feelings.

All the love,

K x

PS Thanks Abe for this shoot! :) Full set here. :)

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